Saying good-bye to ghosts of interviews pastBad interview experiences cling to you like the smell of old fish. And the last thing you want to do is carry those bad memories into the new year. Not only do they whisper negative things to you as you search for jobs, they sit right by your side as you interview, feeding your worry of repeating whatever you did wrong the last time.First some good news. Many times you did nothing wrong. Sometimes it’s just the wrong fit. And even if you give a less-than-perfect answer, good interviewers see the whole package. I’ve had talented clients who’ve been rejected again and again, until they start to believe that they’ll never get a job again. And then the offer comes.So stop kicking yourself about every word you said and thing you did up to now. If you walk into the interview room remembering each time you didn’t get selected (better way to think of it than “rejected”), you’re not going to be able to be fully present nor give your best interview. And if the interviewer feels a dark shadow, that can color the impression you leave, even if they aren’t quite sure why.
So let’s shake off the past and get that job!Some things that might help:
- Make a list of everything you think you did wrong. And then say something to the list that tells it this is the past and you leave all that behind. Now tear the list into little bits (if on paper) or just hit the Delete button, and wave good-bye. Then treat yourself to something special … you earned it!
- Start visualizing yourself in the new year interviewing with engaging energy, great eye contact from both sides, the interviewer leaning in to you and nodding in agreement while smiling, and whatever else would mean it’s going well. See yourself leaving with a feeling that both sides agree that you’re the one they’ve been looking for.
- Spend time from now on brushing up on how to prepare for an interview, how to give a great interview, how to strengthen your resume and cover letters, and how to follow up — and don’t forget the power of networking!